Don't Take Anything Personally
Our Four Agreements book club continues with the second agreement: Don't Take Anything Personally.
As you will see in this week's video, the aha! moment for me is to not take anything personally: not the good stuff and not the bad stuff. This week's video is full of personal anecdotes about (what I find is) the hardest of all of the agreements. What do you do when someone calls you a terrible name? Or when a colleague deals you a low blow? How can we shield ourselves from the negativity of others? If you are unable to see the video above, click here, look in the sidebar of this blog, or visit my channel: www.youtube.com/TheDailyConnoisseur
Here are just a few of my favorite quotes from the chapter:
"Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves." p. 48
This realization is HUGE. We internalize everything and make it about us, but it is always about them. Always. This reminder really helps us to not take anything personally.
"That person tried to send you poison and if you take it personally, then you take that poison and it becomes yours." p.49
A wonderful visual for the negative encounters we might have with people. If someone says something mean-spirited to you, you can choose to take that poison by internalizing it, or you can choose to not take it and leave the poison with the person who misspoke.
"When you take things personally, then you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts." p. 50
Think about all of the conflicts in your life. Most of them probably have begun because you took something personally. When we practice this second agreement, the conflicts we are so used to will dissolve.
"When you truly understand this, and refuse to take things personally, you can hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others." p. 60
For much more please watch this week's video. As always, I would love to hear from you. What is your experience with taking things personally?
See you next week when we discuss the second agreement: Don't Make Assumptions.
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