tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post2074680921999509509..comments2024-03-28T04:17:20.834-07:00Comments on The Daily Connoisseur: Comparing Yourself to Other Women? Reader Q&AThe Daily Connoisseurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13843902889491327636noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-52681176138130913712016-08-26T15:12:29.057-07:002016-08-26T15:12:29.057-07:00Hello Jennifer!
We are grateful for your amazing b...Hello Jennifer!<br />We are grateful for your amazing books in Poland! I read all your three books, although I'm only 16. I was very charmed by your first book ( I think I read it about 3 times):). Many young people forget about being classy, so I think that you could ever think of granting some advice to your younger audience :).<br /> <br />Thank you for everything,<br />Best regards, JuliaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01832229845116411607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-22324868433886423482016-08-26T15:10:39.550-07:002016-08-26T15:10:39.550-07:00Hello Jennifer!
We are grateful for your amazing b...Hello Jennifer!<br />We are grateful for your amazing books in Poland! I read all your three books, although I'm only 16. I was very charmed by your first book ( I think I read it about 3 times):). Many young people forget about being classy, so I think that you could ever think of granting some advice to your younger audience :).<br /> <br />Thank you for everything,<br />Best regards, JuliaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01832229845116411607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-47342657902492357092016-07-19T10:14:16.350-07:002016-07-19T10:14:16.350-07:00Thank you! Thank you! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-15238292076360510792016-07-16T11:13:06.681-07:002016-07-16T11:13:06.681-07:00I have always struggled with comparing myself to o...I have always struggled with comparing myself to other women, even to the young teenage women that I teach daily! Whether it is youth, energy, body type, skin type, etc. I have always seen value in others and not myself. This summer on my school holiday I have truly taken to loving who I am and being happy with how I look. I am not saying I don't have an off day, but in between telling myself daily that I am amazing and wonderful, plus incorporating some of your tips from your books/blog I feel happier and more at peace in my life. It is almost unnerving. I don't worry as much anymore about little things. The list I would take to prayer is shorter and filled with more thanksgiving and praise than petitions and stress.<br /><br />Thank you so much for you books. I can't believe I am just now reading them. Where were you when I was just entering college?! Where were you when I was freshly married?!<br /><br />You are a breath of fresh air. I talk about you to my husband like you are a best friend. Please continue to write, blog, and make YouTube videos. I will be forever grateful.<br /><br /><br />From a Southern Louisiana girl to your South Cali self, may you always have air conditioning and your makeup never melt.<br />BrittAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03145568406456363255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-63165866533423943312016-07-14T21:36:27.885-07:002016-07-14T21:36:27.885-07:00Thanks for that comment and good idea about the bo...Thanks for that comment and good idea about the books instead of magazines.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-49751309013159111532016-07-14T03:02:01.981-07:002016-07-14T03:02:01.981-07:00Thank you for the topic. I too struggle with compa...Thank you for the topic. I too struggle with comparing myself with others. I have very fair skin and in my early 20s I would lay out burn and have a tan that faded faster than I could keep up with. I've given that up now I work on accepting myself for what I am. Coco Chanel said "There are no ugly woman in the world only lazy ones" and I love this, I see the potential in every woman but the crazy thing is I then will say to myself " I like how she is blank and I would be prettier if I had that quality too". It's something I work on every day. The most beautiful women are the ones who have thrown out self sabotage and they usually are not perfect, actually they seem to have quirks that make them unique. For me it's an inside job. Warm well wishes to you and your family Jennifer. <br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05422793670507025460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-26630911587522379892016-07-13T12:27:50.993-07:002016-07-13T12:27:50.993-07:00Comparison is the death of joy. I recently saw a ...Comparison is the death of joy. I recently saw a quote that said, "Admire another's beauty without questioning your own." I love that! In the past, I've admired the beauty of other women and immediately tried to make myself look more like them. Now, I know what enhances my own beauty and what doesn't work, and I can admire someone else's qualities without trying to adopt them.Emma Knight Peelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14139320098521755779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-24095972373660971472016-07-13T08:28:36.750-07:002016-07-13T08:28:36.750-07:00Jennifer, about ten years ago I needed to have a p...Jennifer, about ten years ago I needed to have a professional photo done. The photographer told me then that high school students are now having their graduation pictures photoshopped!And I recall reading an article saying that young men now have the expectation that their girlfriends are supposed to look like the models on magazine covers!I guess it's one of those trends that has to get to an extreme before it gets back to a happy medium.Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03885016833329869945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-69920018649649873252016-07-12T04:15:22.719-07:002016-07-12T04:15:22.719-07:00This is why I no longer buy/read fashion and beaut...This is why I no longer buy/read fashion and beauty magazines. I would always get depressed after reading them of late (something that didn't happen in earlier years.) I realized it was the constant bombardment of the message "You aren't good enough... until you buy THIS!" Yes, there has always been advertising, but lately it seems to be going for the jugular, not telling us that "you will be better with this," but that "you aren't good enough without it." I now read books about beauty and fashion rather than magazines. The content isn't motivated by advertising dollars, but is what the author actually thinks. And, no, the advice isn't time-sensitive, as true style is timeless, not subject to fads and trends.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-8831514118752718552016-07-12T03:30:17.670-07:002016-07-12T03:30:17.670-07:00Hi Candice. I hope you don't mind me chiming i...Hi Candice. I hope you don't mind me chiming in here. I agree with you on being selective about who you follow on social media and keeping things in perspective with respect to what is real. Regarding exercise, I think you need to do what makes you feel happy and healthy and that is the secret to attaining that joie de vivre. For some people that is the daily walking of errands. For others like me it is my daily runs and structured workouts. I love finding ways to fit the Madame Chic lifestyle into my situation, but I also don't give up the areas that truly bring me joy. Madame Melvillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14014342177820042162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-21521052991482810582016-07-11T21:39:05.436-07:002016-07-11T21:39:05.436-07:00Hi Jennifer - this was a lovely video, as always. ...Hi Jennifer - this was a lovely video, as always. I just turned 28 this year and I feel I still sometimes struggle with this same phenomenon. I try to be mindful of who I follow on Instagram, following only "real" people rather than celebs or people whose lives are so "beautified" that it is obviously not realistic. This is the same reason I do not have a Pinterest account. It is the same reason I never purchase women's magazines. I try to be very cognizant of what I let influence myself because if I am not careful, suddenly I'm sitting here feeling sorry for myself rather than feeling thankful and blessed at the beautiful life I have created!!<br /><br />This does tie in to one question I have, however...and it is something I have been struggling with for a while. As a younger woman, who has recently made a lot of changes in my life, the next change I want to make is to begin to eat healthier and work out. However, I am having a hard time "reconciling" the idea of doing this, along with living a Madame Chic lifestyle. I know Madame Chic probably would not have done workout videos at home in her sports bra or meal-prepped on Sundays so she has healthy foods to take to work, however, I must also be realistic. I was wondering if you could share your thoughts on remaining true to the Madame Chic lifestyle, while starting a formal workout program (at home or at the gym) and doing things like meal prepping, eating 4-5 times per day (as advocated for health), etc. I would greatly appreciate it!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-10578175262292289932016-07-11T20:04:39.740-07:002016-07-11T20:04:39.740-07:00I recently had the opportunity to have a private c...I recently had the opportunity to have a private consulatation with a professional make-up artist representing a high end cosmetic line. During the appointment I lamented my imperfect and aging complexion. To my surprise the consultant told me that perfection should not be the goal of one's beauty regime, as it is unattainable. She further let the cat out of the bag, by telling me that many of the models used in ad campaigns for the cosmetic line she represents are in their teens, made up to look older than their actual years . . . and then air brushed and photoshopped! Well, there is no competing with that in the real world! I hope your young readers will find a way to relieve themselves from the pressure of trying to attain what is actually unattainable. As a postscript, I once saw an interview with Cindy Crawford in which she said that SHE didn't even look like Cindy Crawford when she woke up in the morning. <br />Your's is a refreshing voice, Jennifer. I enjoy your posts and videos and recommend them to others whenever I have the opportunity.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16258921396860603679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-16732604284856764852016-07-11T17:55:30.073-07:002016-07-11T17:55:30.073-07:00It can be very difficult, for me anyway, to not co...It can be very difficult, for me anyway, to not compare myself to others or to not want the life I see others have... but I must remember, the life they portray on Instagram is just the highlights. Thank you Jennifer for this lovely reminder, and thank you for doing a question from a fellow Aussie!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-31951943580890677452016-07-11T17:39:31.055-07:002016-07-11T17:39:31.055-07:00Dianna...thank you for the link to the Beauty Rede...Dianna...thank you for the link to the Beauty Redefine website! It's great! A must-read for all daily connoisseurs and women!Akilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15483890475451130021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-26057119022681672052016-07-11T15:33:54.093-07:002016-07-11T15:33:54.093-07:00Congratulations on your new baby. I hope you find ...Congratulations on your new baby. I hope you find plenty of time to enjoy him!<br /><br />Comparison is hard for me—and I think it is for all of us, especially women. I don't just compare my looks to others, I compare my house, my diet, my lifestyle, my kids—it never ends! One thing I've learned in the last five years is that the only person I can compare myself to is myself. How am I doing this year compared to last year? What am I doing so that I will have improved myself when I look back at myself next year?<br /><br />I have found the website Beauty Redefined invaluable for re-educating me about what the media is and why we feel so much pressure to look a certain way. <br />http://www.beautyredefined.net/Diannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09517246579704472278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-79698865139559683442016-07-11T15:24:14.830-07:002016-07-11T15:24:14.830-07:00I needed to hear that today. I'm glad I click...I needed to hear that today. I'm glad I clicked onto it and listened. Being a school run mum is hard. Being true to myself like you say, has been my new mantra today and this week going fwd!!<br />Love to you and the family, I hope you visit us all soon!! Love from sarah (Scott) Bluebellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00371410012042503100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-16210553606703507932016-07-11T15:14:29.845-07:002016-07-11T15:14:29.845-07:00Whenever I find myself feeling a bit down on mysel...Whenever I find myself feeling a bit down on myself compared to others I repeat this quote by Theodore Roosevelt, "Comparison is the thief of joy." It snaps me out of the funk quite quickly! It's a good one to keep top of mind. Thanks for another great video Jennifer!Madame Melvillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14014342177820042162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-18611540036535308802016-07-11T15:07:35.128-07:002016-07-11T15:07:35.128-07:00Dear Jennifer. Merci beaucoup. So appreciate you...Dear Jennifer. Merci beaucoup. So appreciate your shout out for our book, "Paris Nights." You are the best. Loren StephensAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16246361513580542385noreply@blogger.com