tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post6211005863570804720..comments2024-03-28T04:17:20.834-07:00Comments on The Daily Connoisseur: Athleisure is Dying? Loungewear as Self-optimization & Tommy Lee #dresscodewars | 3 Articles on Dress The Daily Connoisseurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13843902889491327636noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-31857563241752390982019-09-08T20:08:43.169-07:002019-09-08T20:08:43.169-07:00This topic brings me back to my childhood when my ...This topic brings me back to my childhood when my mom always told me "we Asians have to always always look presentable because if we dress sloppy, people will treat us terribly. We just don’t have the room to dress sloppy, not even when we are relaxing. Otherwise, people will think we are homeless.” So we always made sure we look our best in addition to doing every aspect of our life the best as we could because if we dress badly, none of the other parts would matter. I still feel the inner pressure to this date to look my best so that I will be treated equally as my white friends who are dressed very casually. So when my 8 year-old daughter is dressed “unpresentable” and feeling comfortable enough without feeling the pressure to look presentable, while I tell her to dress better and change into something nicer, part of me is feeling happy about it that she is not suppressed by the pressure my mother and my siblings had to go through. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-14069399036512959842019-09-07T17:34:36.528-07:002019-09-07T17:34:36.528-07:00Kgirl, you are so right! I wish that men had some...Kgirl, you are so right! I wish that men had some of that infamous "body shame" that women seem to have in abundant supply. Maybe they would cover up a little more. It seems that neither gender sees themselves as they are. Women tend to think they look fatter than they do, while men think they are Greek gods. Talk about body dysmorphia....Mimi Gregornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-77585438456405100422019-09-07T13:37:27.005-07:002019-09-07T13:37:27.005-07:00Hi Jenifer! Love your video today. i was wondering...Hi Jenifer! Love your video today. i was wondering if you had any recommendation for budget friendly denim dresses? I love the new one you got but it is not in my budget. Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-47663794070961801862019-09-07T09:52:52.432-07:002019-09-07T09:52:52.432-07:00Re the article about women worrying about how they...Re the article about women worrying about how they look all the time, I'd like people to give equal weighting not just to the awfulness of wearing yoga pants 24/7 but to the way men (of all shapes and sizes) feel it's appropriate to take their shirts off in public when it gets hot in summer. No. I do not want to see this. Maybe you, Brad Pitt. Most of the rest of the population: no. But why do men feel this is appropriate in public? While jogging, while shopping in the grocery store...there is so much I have to see that I wish to un-see. Yet people judge women's clothing and bodies all the time while men seem to get a free pass to walk around half naked and looking pretty gross. I say thank goodness summer is over. :-)Kgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13939078054903044458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-26780562028127145902019-09-06T15:24:27.365-07:002019-09-06T15:24:27.365-07:00Oh, wow. Tommy Lee thinks he can verbally abuse pe...Oh, wow. Tommy Lee thinks he can verbally abuse people because he is famous and rich. Sense of entitlement much? I wonder how he'd like it if the staff used profanity on him?<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-67380164817874556542019-09-05T19:10:13.902-07:002019-09-05T19:10:13.902-07:00Hello Jennifer,
You haven't heard from me in ...Hello Jennifer,<br /><br />You haven't heard from me in a while because I have been out of town with my husband's health issues. Now I am back and happy to participate again! I have eaten at Delmonico's restaurant, and I have also met Emeril in person~ Emeril came to my child's school's fundraiser to help attract guests, and I thanked him for coming to the fundraiser. Emeril is excellent, and Tommy Lee's behavior and language are terrible. Thanks for bringing attention to the issues of appropriate dress.<br /><br />Warm best, Alexandra Ladylikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17830602869390035670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-29689934923372564102019-09-05T18:26:56.460-07:002019-09-05T18:26:56.460-07:00Oh... in regards to your review of various clothin...Oh... in regards to your review of various clothing brands, I am looking forward to more! What a great idea. Then, beyond "style", it would be awesome if you or your audience could share any brands that tend to have more things that look good on the various "body-shapes" such as pear, apple, etc? <br /><br />Not that this is the topic, but I wish all clothing brands would become consistent on size numbers... AND, that the "sizes" wouldn't reflect the size of the bodies they say it will fit, but be the actual measurements of the clothing itself. Like men's jeans, right? If they did that, the customer could decide how tight or loose they want it and go from there. If seems it would prevent a lot of online shopping returns!? How green is that? Deborahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-17247427746550170662019-09-05T18:12:58.841-07:002019-09-05T18:12:58.841-07:00Well said, Jennifer!
Well said, Mimi!Well said, Jennifer!<br />Well said, Mimi!Deborahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-70600881448680464922019-09-05T17:55:32.644-07:002019-09-05T17:55:32.644-07:00Lord knows I don't try to look glamorous at an...Lord knows I don't try to look glamorous at any time, because I equate it with desperation. But I <i>do</i> strive to look presentable at all times -- even when I am home alone. Part of it, I must admit, is attributable to superstition: when I was younger and looked decidedly <i>less</i> than presentable because "I'm not going anywhere.... just cleaning the house," that would be the time that I had to leave the house because of some sort of emergency, with no time to make myself presentable. No makeup, bedhead, and ratty clothes make me feel diffident -- which is not at all how I am when I look presentable. <br /><br />It's easier to look presentable always than one would think. It just takes <i>making it a habit</i>. If you don't <i>own</i> any "grubbies", then you can't wear them. It's just as easy to put on something flattering as it is something messy. There won't be any loss of comfort, I assure you. Having a "uniform" definitely helps. This summer, it's been some pima cotton dresses that I got at Garnet Hill. They are super-comfortable and cut in a way that make me look tall and svelte. I wear them <i>everywhere</i>, I just love them so much. Having a hairstyle that works with your hair as opposed to it being a torturous process requiring multiple products and tools also helps. With me, I find that longer hair is easier to keep tidy than shorter hair was. Also, I don't have to wash it every day. Having a capsule makeup wardrobe helps, too. I know that a lot of women have several different foundations, and maybe dozens of eye shadows and lipsticks. But doesn't one particular foundation always make you look the best? And one color family of eye shadows and lipsticks always looks better with your complexion? Why not wear the colors and formulas that look the most flattering <i>every day</i> instead of using second-rate cosmetics on a quotidian basis, "saving" the good stuff for "special occasions." Life is shorter than you think. If you're alive, it's a special occasion.Mimi Gregornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-75077622549906694942019-09-05T15:29:52.904-07:002019-09-05T15:29:52.904-07:00I think it is very important to recognize that as ...I think it is very important to recognize that as women we are socialized to constantly monitor our appearance in a way that men simply are not. I enjoy looking my best, but it behooves us to bear in mind that there are very powerful cultural messages at work that serve to keep us focused on what our bodies look like rather than what they can do. I recommend beautyredefined.org for thoughtful and intelligent research and writings on this subject. Elizabethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-23597891826050485012019-09-05T13:21:51.373-07:002019-09-05T13:21:51.373-07:00Thank you for sharing these articles with us, Jenn...Thank you for sharing these articles with us, Jennifer, as they were very encouraging to me. The pressure to look good, all of the time, hasn't abated from when I was growing up in the '60's and '70's. I guess we've not come as far as some would like to think even though we are now told to embrace our own unique beauty (which I totally agree with) and feel free to wear whatever we like (which I don't agree with), other opinions be damned. Too many of us have succumbed to that line of thought and embraced each new fad as if it were made for us! Speaking for myself, my unique beauty is not my booty!!!!!! Everyone has a "trouble spot" or two, and I prefer to minimize mine so people can focus on my best feature(s) and spare them from my worst. This doesn't mean I hate my body. I feel that one is actually honoring their body by dressing appropriately in modest enhancement. (This actually honors our viewers as well, whether they acknowledge it or not.)Sharonnoreply@blogger.com