tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post683984663033939099..comments2024-03-28T04:17:20.834-07:00Comments on The Daily Connoisseur: In Response to my Critics | Budget Wardrobe | AdultingThe Daily Connoisseurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13843902889491327636noreply@blogger.comBlogger62125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-91297252271006263772017-11-03T13:26:56.821-07:002017-11-03T13:26:56.821-07:00Jennifer, you are always beautiful, eloquent, dign...Jennifer, you are always beautiful, eloquent, dignified and graceful. I agree with everything you have said. People these days get offended so easily and don't like any difference of opinion, and don't know how to express that without getting their feathers ruffled and making a scene. I wish we would have to go through hard times, wash clothes by hand, stand in bread and cheese lines for food... Our society has become so spoiled. We need to be humbled. That's my opinion. This is your channel and you should be free to express your beliefs and not have to explain yourself. Your wardrobe is lovely, and presentable, which is your main point. Thank you for doing these vlogs. I always find your information uplifting and delightful. Love you!<br /><br />Mary Emma Knight Peelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14139320098521755779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-71269220688549248932017-10-25T14:03:06.308-07:002017-10-25T14:03:06.308-07:00I was very impressed with your video responding to...I was very impressed with your video responding to your critics. One of the beauties of our society is that there is much room for variety of opinions and tastes, as well as budgets. One of the dangers is that there are people who seem to want to squelch that freedom. My body type, coloring, and the climate I live in (all 4 seasons!), mean that many of the clothes you show wouldn't work for me. I may be "adulting" here when I say that I don't expect you to change your style for me, and that I have learned a few things from your blogs and videos anyway, and have been much inspired by your philosophy! It is so easy today to go online, click a few buttons and have new clothes shipped right to our doors (expensive or "clearance", take your pick). I wonder if some of the people who don't like the adulting video would feel differently if they spent a season with their grandmothers at a time when most women shopped at the fabric store and regularly spent hours or weeks sewing clothes for the entire family?Looking for the Good in the Worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00730392466405486205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-1934134416223368962017-10-11T15:15:03.087-07:002017-10-11T15:15:03.087-07:00Jennifer,
I am a fellow mom of three, homeschoolin...Jennifer,<br />I am a fellow mom of three, homeschooling work at home mom (born in 1983) and have always loved your blog and videos. After watching this one I love you even more! You have spoken such truth with grace in the midst of criticism. I appreciate your choices and respect you sharing openly. I couldn't agree more with all your thoughts and perspectives on our current society. Thank you!!!! Keep it up--and probably with every one criticism there are 100 people who agree w you:) just remember that!Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08784271134354301530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-32882135727679147832017-10-04T18:27:27.881-07:002017-10-04T18:27:27.881-07:00I just wondered ..don't multiple ten item ward...I just wondered ..don't multiple ten item wardrobes for every season year after year add up to a huge quantity of clothes? If you buy good quality they will last for years.<br /><br />I am trying to u derstand the concept.....Victoria galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00174287755869690747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-17652993576809039522017-10-03T10:15:11.334-07:002017-10-03T10:15:11.334-07:00Jennifer,
First of all tnaks for your authenticit...Jennifer,<br /><br />First of all tnaks for your authenticity and your honesty in your blog.. I have been followingyou for years and you have always been a source of inspiration with your poise and grace...I'm a baby boomer and I completely agrre with you about the "adulting " challenge.. here in Spain looks like teenagers years go from 11 to 30 or more!!!! and if they think that thoseare difficult times , yes they are, wehave just to look backbarwds to our fathers, in my case, or grandfathers... we have a horrible civil war,and they go trought them... and today OMG, just 2 weeks ago a 20s instagramer commit suicide because she was loosing followers... what are we teaching to the younger generations?????<br /><br />Life it's not perfect but is real LIFE...<br /><br />On the other hand , if you have the opportunity while travelling go to Porto (Portugal) we have a 5 days escape last week.. and I feel so confortable whit that city.. not only the foor its wonderful but also the people are so nice and charming in and "old fashion" sort of way...<br /><br />Thanks again and take care!!!<br /><br />Warmest regards form Barcelona (Spain)ilsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00862494312702849795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-91418690511826988332017-10-02T09:50:18.666-07:002017-10-02T09:50:18.666-07:00STANDING OVATION!!!!!!!!!!! COMPLETELY AGREE! I lo...STANDING OVATION!!!!!!!!!!! COMPLETELY AGREE! I look to even further back, whenever I cross the west in a car and think of all of the pioneers had to overcome just finding water and shelter!!?? We may not have perfect economies and situations, who does?!! But wow. We have also so much to be thankful for. When you think positively or negatively, that's what you will bring about in your life I am a tried and true believer! Stop thinking negatively and you'll get GOOD results, not perfect but good. There is so much to be thankful for in this world, even despite the terrible shooing in Las Vegas. <br /><br />I'm so thankful I've found you as a sanity barrier in this strange world we are living in. I also had this exact book on hold at the library, excitedly waiting for it to come in! Thank you again and once again, enjoy your travels!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11443173497685878931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-7920020376641562742017-10-02T09:01:25.018-07:002017-10-02T09:01:25.018-07:00Jennifer,
You are an inspiration to women in every...Jennifer,<br />You are an inspiration to women in every generation. I am a baby boomer and I love your perspective on life, respecting others, and graceful living.<br />Keep up your great work!<br />Debby DebbyBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15923094604040531216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-56837669643566581602017-10-02T08:25:59.943-07:002017-10-02T08:25:59.943-07:00Well, this was another wonderful video. You are s...Well, this was another wonderful video. You are so gracious, and I admire you for standing up for what you believe. We were always taught to "speak the truth, in love," meaning with kindness, and this is exactly what you do on this channel. I suspect some of your critics are feeling a bit guilty about their lifestyle choices, hence their chagrin. I so admire your goal of debt free living. I even told my husband about you, and he says way to go! We live well beneath our means, and try not to get sucked in to the culture of flashy materialism. We are raising our teen daughter with this value, and I have shared several of your videos with her. I can point to you and say, See? This is an elegant, young family and this is how they roll. Your example is truly a breath of fresh air.Margaret Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10738115434380335164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-45608518359834125612017-10-02T08:25:16.929-07:002017-10-02T08:25:16.929-07:00I'm anticipating you will delete this comment,...I'm anticipating you will delete this comment, but why do you blog if you don't allow/expect some criticism? You've deleted all of the negative comments from the previous post, and I'm assuming you are doing the same here. I know it is your page, but I've lost some respect for you because you feel a need to address the "haters."<br /><br />Let me make clear - I actually agree with everything you said. However, I would have expected that you would not post a "reaction" video; it makes you seem caught up in how others see you.KBiedahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02390217719697127621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-67706344561712930252017-10-02T05:40:04.963-07:002017-10-02T05:40:04.963-07:00Me thinks you hit a nerve with those who criticize...Me thinks you hit a nerve with those who criticized your views on " adulting." The exact people that need to hear it. I couldn't agree with you more. Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04915532583444877375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-17180413458903081932017-10-02T05:34:40.644-07:002017-10-02T05:34:40.644-07:00Hear! Hear!Hear! Hear!The Price Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16909123850824595657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-83442285015895457192017-10-01T20:31:36.742-07:002017-10-01T20:31:36.742-07:00Hi Jennifer,
I'm sending you a big virtual hu...Hi Jennifer,<br /><br />I'm sending you a big virtual hug! Thank you for this classy response to your recent criticisms and simply for being you. It saddens to me hear some of the comments that others left about your wardrobe and unfair accusations regarding the "adulating" post. You are courageous to share your life with the world, and I admire your strong character and big heart. I hope you and your family are loving your time in Portugal! <br /><br />Warmly,<br /><br />MaureenMaureenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06332498327460781946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-60995252642987784752017-10-01T20:23:14.871-07:002017-10-01T20:23:14.871-07:00Jennifer, before posting this comment, I automatic...Jennifer, before posting this comment, I automatically thought "How can any one of your continuing readers find any fault with your current '10-item Wardrobe' or 'Adulting' videos?" You always preface your comments so that any viewer (especially a regular)knows that you are expressing your own thoughts based upon your own experiences and your own and your families' values and lifestyle. I applaud you for standing your ground toward anyone who denigrates your budget wardrobe this year or your observation that "some" millennials are not even attempting to pull their own weight economically. My words, "Instead moving back in with their parents (sometimes even with children of their own) and opting to let their parents (their children's grandparents) keep them afloat." My husband is an estate planning attorney and without naming client names (He strictly adheres to attorney/client confidentiality, of course), but will sometimes tell me, shaking his head, tales of anonymous "kids" now in their 30s and 40s living with parents and continuing to conduct their lives as if they were still adolescents; thereby inhibiting their parents' personal lives, draining their retirement funds, not to mention their peace of mind. This scenario is not at all the generational living of years gone by i.e. "John Boy and the Waltons." Those who view their lives from a much different vantage point will stop reading and viewing your Blog. Others, like me, will continue to champion your effort to bring the values of truly caring for family and friends, and even strangers in public and in private by dressing and conducting yourself appropriately for the circumstance and venue, living within your means with grace,thereby demonstrating to yourself, your spouse, your children, your friends and acquaintances, the inherent worth to society as a whole by conducting ourselves as fully participatory inhabitants of this fellowship on the Blue Planet we call Earth.<br /><br /> Patriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09298772533416829003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-37885401842801535612017-10-01T19:00:16.396-07:002017-10-01T19:00:16.396-07:00Isn't the goal of education to openly share ne...Isn't the goal of education to openly share new ideas? I don't understand the emotional reactiveness to differing ideas and opinions. I'm baffled.<br /><br />Jennifer, I love your blog and find it encouraging, informative, and well...entertaining. <br />I applauded you for your honest, well-founded ideas, methods, and suggestions.<br />I loved your fall wardrobe selections, especially the burgundy maxi; I thought it a delightful change from your traditional attire and look forward to seeing you in it. Isn't that really what fashion is? A bit of fun?<br /><br />Debt-free living is wonderful, being a good bit older than you I can tell you. It eliminates a whole lot of stress. It's a super goal, especially for a young family. You are seriously one in a million. One never know what the future holds, sickness, job loss, natural disasters, divorce, and knowing that you are debt free eliminates a great deal of emotional stress. <br /><br />Enjoy your life girlfriend.<br /><br />Shannon Bardwellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04340439727394114570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-89082939040255376122017-10-01T10:15:19.940-07:002017-10-01T10:15:19.940-07:00Hmmmm... Seems some don't know what Zulily is....Hmmmm... Seems some don't know what Zulily is. It's not a line of cheap clothes. It's a clearinghouse of merchandise of all price points. Some shoes on the site might sell at full price for $19.99; others for $250, but from the Zulily site they are all a fraction of their full retail price, whatever that is. Some of the stuff is VERY high quality, but it's all relatively low cost. Had a friend who thought any thing reasonably priced was junk till the day we showed up in the same blouse. She paid $300+. I got mine at a consignment store for less than $10. She still doesn't shop consignment but ... oh well!DDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01184894829128464839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-38679160715024554942017-09-30T04:40:49.067-07:002017-09-30T04:40:49.067-07:00Dear Jennifer,
I am a long time reader/viewer of...Dear Jennifer, <br /><br />I am a long time reader/viewer of your blog and love your books as well. I admire your values and ideals, and am raising my teen daughters to eventually leave the nest as responsible, confident adults. (You may enjoy this book, by the way: "How to Raise an Adult" by Julie Lythcott-Hains. It is a wonderful book, and I've heard the author speak.) <br /><br />I rarely post comments but am moved to do so today. The reason I am writing is this: You do not need to justify yourself to your critics by posting follow up videos like these. Just keep doing what you're doing, and ignore the negative comments. Stay the course. Continue to put your beliefs out there in your thoughtful, empathic manner. Defending yourself in follow up videos in an effort to provide clarity to your critics is a waste of time, and frankly, beneath you. You have many more supporters than haters, so take heart. <br /><br />Keep up the good work.<br />Best,<br />ElizabethElizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664331132168516294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-57682652345602582652017-09-29T15:53:15.307-07:002017-09-29T15:53:15.307-07:00Jennifer, I love that you open the dialogue for co...Jennifer, I love that you open the dialogue for conversations that need to happen to further our society! <br /><br />In my opinion, your wardrobe is lovely and I'm very happy for you regarding your recent life updates.<br /><br />Every time I load my dishwasher, stick a load of clothes in the washer or adjust the air conditioning, I have a moment of gratitude. Yes, ironing, dishes, cooking, and cleaning can be thankless and never ending tasks. However, I am so blessed that we have running water, temperature control, a stove and microwave, etc. In some parts of our country, not to mention others, many struggle with getting the basic necessities. <br /><br />I'm reminded of a poem:<br />'Thank God for dirty dishes, <br />They have a tale to tell.<br />While others go hungry,<br />We're doing very well.<br />With food and health and happiness,<br />We shouldn't want to fuss.<br />For with this stack of evidence,<br />God's been very good to us!'<br /><br />Have a lovely weekend!<br />AmandaAmanda Garciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08605769224087756720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-23434040399476349252017-09-29T15:22:04.616-07:002017-09-29T15:22:04.616-07:00I am in favor of staying with in your budget for s...I am in favor of staying with in your budget for sure (Dave Ramsey!!), but also social justice and eco-friendliness. Sometimes these do not go well with a small budget when purchasing new. I have used a combination of splurging on brands such as Patagonia (probably not your style Jennifer, but there are plenty out there that would work for you) for a few things that were too hard to find second-hand. I have three girls eight, five and two. I know all about the size changes and went through that scenario last fall, purging much that was too big since losing weight after reading The Beauty Detox Solution. (Thanks for that Jennifer...the ripple it has had on my friends and family is incredible!) I purchased quality second-hand items on Thred Up, Swap.com and Poshmart. I like that I can search for brands, specific sizes, and items from home. Thrift store shopping is not happening this season of life. I guess if you can find ethical clothing on Zulily, than awesome, but I say quality second hand is a fantastic choice when on a small salary. I stay home and my husband is a teacher. So happy for you and your family and the wonderful choices you are making. Thanks for your influence! Your voice matters!Janessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07330311660574786995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-89391593182243231582017-09-29T15:08:46.979-07:002017-09-29T15:08:46.979-07:00Hello ladies, Thank you so much for your comments....Hello ladies, Thank you so much for your comments. I am so grateful to all of you for being a part of the Daily Connoisseur community. Thank you for your input and for your support. I truly mean it. God bless you!<br />~Jennifer The Daily Connoisseurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13843902889491327636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-76234540565859319742017-09-29T14:09:34.808-07:002017-09-29T14:09:34.808-07:00You present thoughtful information and provide for...You present thoughtful information and provide for a reflective dialogue that is valuable to me. I am grateful for the time you take to prepare and present the text, pictures and videos at no charge. I really appreciate your work because you demonstrate a chic lifestyle of an educated woman, writer, wife, mother, educator and appreciator of the arts. It is so refreshing. I enjoy other Francophile writers and photographers but you are one of the few who are married with children tackling how to balance all the real facets of life with some style, level-head and a smile. Thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-61454142879489274662017-09-29T13:43:50.898-07:002017-09-29T13:43:50.898-07:00I'm sorry you received such ire. Didn't ot...I'm sorry you received such ire. Didn't other express concern that your displays were too expensive in years past? You can't please everyone. I've enjoyed reading your blog and watching you evolve. Your mention of your Grandfather's WWII involvement reminds me of my own Grandparents' experiences. I just got a copy of Nella Last's war - a diary of a war-time Mom in the U.K. and I read it slowly because even though I know the outcome it makes me sad anyway - she worries about her soon-to-be-a-soldier son. As far as adulting goes, the most immature person I knew was a baby boomer and she got abruptly ill and died and when she was gone I thought "ok, what really was the problem I had? Maybe I was the problem." And now I just forgive everybody for everything, though sometimes that takes a few days. Everyone has the potential to be an impulsive child, especially when typing things online. Thank you for your blog....Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15005918134737202842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-9719158789028979882017-09-29T12:36:48.481-07:002017-09-29T12:36:48.481-07:00I know you didn't have to explain your wardrob...I know you didn't have to explain your wardrobe budget to us, but I'm glad you did. I just did a budget for my very small amount of spending money that I have each month. For complicated reasons it is separate from our household budget. I use this money for haircuts, beauty products and clothing, you know, girl stuff! It gives me a feeling of privacy in my male-dominated household. Anyway, it worked out that my clothing budget is $250, like yours, twice a year. I love your choices they suit you perfectly!<br /> <br />I have been thinking a lot lately about debt-free living. I have been listening to the Dave Ramsey show and finding it educational and inspiring. I can't wait for you to do your videos/posts on your debt-free story. SHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13358248556532675587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-80906714235128116302017-09-29T12:10:52.764-07:002017-09-29T12:10:52.764-07:00You are wonderful, refreshing and "authentic&...You are wonderful, refreshing and "authentic". I've always enjoy reading your posts. Way to go on being debit free! Keep on inspiring and being your classy self. <br />Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02224429230496984341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-68659553315759601172017-09-29T09:38:49.952-07:002017-09-29T09:38:49.952-07:00"The greatest generation" was my immedia..."The greatest generation" was my immediate thought when I first heard of the backlash against your "adulting" video. That generation lived through not one, but two major national crises, both so individually significant I don't think we in this era can even wrap our minds around how difficult they must have been.<br /><br />The thing is though, hardship was not relegated to just that moment in the ever distancing past. My parents have spoken of the economy being so bad when they married in the 70's that new reports advised young people to choose between having a house and having a family... "you couldn't do both". <br /><br />My parents had just as shaky an economic start as my husband and I are now experiencing, and though I remember times being tough, I also remember how they strove to bring beauty and joy into our lives... <br /><br />It occurs to me that what defines a generation, as well as an individual, is not the hardships they are given, but the way they respond to those hardships. <br /><br />Additionally, I must say I am positively floored at the criticism you garnered in regards to your wardrobe, especially since I remember, when I first discovered your channel, comments complaining that your picks then were too expensive! This seems to be a "darned if you do, darned if you don't" situation. I must say I am refreshed and inspired by how you show your principles remaining consistent, though the way that plays out changes as your situation changes. In a world where it seems every YouTuber is simply showing off how "perfect" their lifestyle is, you remain authentic. As a fellow mom of young children, I applaud your dedication to "showing up to life" each day, even in this messy, time-strapped, cash-strapped season. <br /><br />Thank you for being you, Jennifer! Keep up the great work!<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15843264866971466420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7682312585713348709.post-21663246626384140442017-09-29T08:11:57.233-07:002017-09-29T08:11:57.233-07:00Hi Jennifer,
first time commenting but I follow yo...Hi Jennifer,<br />first time commenting but I follow you for some time now. I appreciate a lot your authenticity and goodwill. The sneak peak to the life of mom of 3 AND a full time lady always inspires me :)<br /><br />I think commenting on someone's choices, especially those of esthetical or financial background is very inproper. Your graceful answer to that is more than this indelicacy deserves.<br /><br />However, it also caught my attention, that your wardrobe for this season might be of different quality and durability than the previous ones. As I myself struggle hugely with a very limited budget (financial and time wise), I often buy the so called fast fashion and try (usually without much success) make it last as long as possible. Unfortunately after every 3-6 months things start to look worn-off and 7 gaps in a 10 ten item wardrobe is stressfull and not something you can fix with 100dollars:) That is why I would love to hear on your thoughts after this season and next years as well - when pieces will come in and out more frequently. (Because, you know, I hope you will continue blogging for years :D)<br /><br />Thank you for your smile and taking life simply the way it is<br />KateKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07901994908983038415noreply@blogger.com