Part two of the reader Q&A continues today as I answer your questions. Today's topics: How do I maintain poise during a disagreement, especially with a family member? Do you have to be a size 6 to look good in the ten-item wardrobe? (I think you already know the answer to that question is NO.) Where can I get a good bra fitting?
All of these topics are discussed in today's video plus much more.
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Here is a snippet of one of the pages from the new Lessons from Madame Chic comic book from Harper Collins, Japan. So much fun!
Here are some more pictures of the books from around the world. First stop, China!
... and the Slovak Republic
... and America!
Comment of the Week
Kamloops writes: I am a fan of my aprons. I love my nice outfits and for cooking or cleaning an apron is ideal. For decades I also clean my bathroom as I step out of the shower. By the time I am dressed that room is done.
Hi Kamloops, I love your tip for cleaning the bathroom as you use it. When the kids were younger (but old enough to sit up in the bath without me being right there) I would clean the bathroom while supervising them. I know many other people do this too! Thanks for your tip.
Today I would love to hear your thoughts on the subjects discussed in the video. Have you ever lost your poise during an argument? How did you learn from it? Plus size ladies, do you have any words of wisdom to share with our readers regarding dressing well? Do you have any recommendations for where to get a good bra fitting? Let me know and your comment could be chosen as comment of the week on the blog!
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Yes I have been unfriended by someone on Facebook before. It did hurt and feel ridiculous to me at first, but I just let it go and moved on.
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ReplyDeleteThanks for the video, Jennifer. I would like to share that it is possible to measure yourself for a bra. You will need a measuring tape, the flexible type that is used for sewing. Andy Paige has specific instructions in her book "Style on a Shoestring". She also has tips in the same book on how to make yourself appear more slim with certain clothes; these tips might be useful to the plus-size reader who had a question about the possibility of the 10 item wardrobe. Wearing all black or tent-like clothing is not one of the author's suggestions.
Warm best to all,
Alexandra
About the plus size topic, If you dont mind second hand shops, you can by some nice transitional outfits for your journey.
ReplyDeleteFor bra fittings, I highly recommend Nordstrom. They have fitting experts at all their stores, as well as tester bras in all sizes. My mother took me there for my first real fitting more than 20 years ago, and it's still my go-to store for bra fittings. I'm a 32/34 F/G so finding good quality bras that fit is very important to me. Most women don't wear the right size and while you can measure yourself, it's not always easy to do so accurately. Nordstrom also has an excellent selection in a variety of sizes, shapes, and price points.
ReplyDeleteI like your advice for poise in arguments. "Be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger." I think this biblical advice works for every situation, not just in arguments. It's so much better not to have said anything and have no regrets. We do not always need to defend ourselves. It's better to forgive and forget others than to live with regret.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your thoughts and ideas with us. You're a blessing!
~Jody
I highly recommend going to Nordstrom for a bra fitting. Make an appointment with their fitters. They are extremely knowledgeable, and undergo months of training. When I got fitted with them, an associate was in the room with me. She ensured not only the proper fit, but the proper style for my shape. Not all bras are the same; you might be a different size in a different style or brand. Once you understand how a bra should truly fit (most women do not), the process of selecting undergarments will get easier. It's also common for your bra size to change often due to pregnancy, weight loss/gain, and aging. It's common for women to continue buying the same size since their college years. I'd highly recommend getting fitted at least every 2 years, or after every major body change. I hope this helps.
ReplyDeleteI also recommend Nordstrom. The fitters are very knowledgeable and professional. I have found their bra selection to be plentiful and of good quality.
ReplyDeleteI am a plus sized lady that used a 5 item wardrobe last summer and past fall/winter. My plan was to lose weight but, surprise! it didn't happen. So this year I will be adding to my 5 item wardrobe to complete a 10 item wardrobe. Although I loved the concept, it was very difficult to only use the same 5 items and I really think I would feel better about myself with the full 10 items. My new clothes will be budget items or thrift store finds so if I do lose weight I can replace only the clothes that become too large as that happens and not feel too stressed about spending the money on something that may not be in my closet for long. Once I'm at my goal weight I will start to build a better quality 10 item wardrobe.
ReplyDeleteSoma is a great store for bras and bra fitting.
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ReplyDeleteI recently found a website called her room dot com when I was searching online for bra fitting advice. I haven't done business with them (yet), but they have LOTS of info on bra fitting. I had to laugh when I saw you sit up straighter as you were reading the bra fitting question and she mentioned posture.
Thank you for the advice on poise in arguments - a very good reminder!
Finally, I wish we could see an English version of the Madame Chic comic books : )
Poise in arguments in so hard, but I agree that you can improve with practice. Some people really like drama, and if you respond heatedly the situation will continue to escalate. Staying calm takes a lot of the fun out of it for them. And for those who are genuinely upset, staying calm can help them have a conversation instead of an argument. One thing I've found that helped with my kids is taking a breath and pausing to say their name before responding. This helped me not blurt out the harsher words I was thinking, and the small pause and calm response can (sometimes) help diffuse the situation.
ReplyDeleteOn Facebook, I try to stay away from political or controversial things, but I still have had a few people get offended by something I've done or want to argue. My advice would be to not take it personally, it's really more about them than you. They may be having a really bad day or feeling particularly emotional. Don't get involved in an argument online- never worth it! Be yourself, and your true friends will accept and appreciate the way you are.
Wonderful and wise observations and suggestions by you, Jennifer, and may I add, in addition to your "quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger" James 1:19 passage, is Viktor Frankl's great quote that parallels this: "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." I find this to be an extraordinarily helpful quote in my life, too.
ReplyDeleteI am bookmarking the quotes . Wise words to live by .
ReplyDeleteJennifer , Thanks for doing these Q&A sessions . These sessions address the common issues all women face but somehow not discussed with our friends or family . Our social interactions are becoming curated too by media, advertisements , sales etc.keep doing what you are doing .
ReplyDeleteHere's a question for a possible future Q&A. I know you drink tea and some coffee, too, and while I have white teeth and whitening gel and trays from a dentist, I notice that the more tea I drink (herbal in the evening) that my teeth aren't as white as they used to be. I don't want to give up my tea. Your teeth are so beautiful and white. As a tea drinker, how do you keep them that way and how often do you whiten your teeth, if you do? That may be a great topic. Thanks!
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