The areas you encourage your children in might be different from mine depending on your life circumstance. But today, let's sit down together and come up with different ways we can encourage our children to be helps in the home.
I encourage my older daughters when they help me with the baby. (He's two now, so I guess he's a toddler, but you know how it is with the youngest. They will always be your baby, no matter how old he or she is! :) )
I encourage all of my children with the cleaning and come up with clever ways to make cleaning enticing. My son especially has an interest in helping me clean.
I like to encourage their specific skills in academics and music. These are just some examples. Today, I would love to know how you encourage your children.
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10 comments:
Hi Jennifer! Thanks so much for this post! It’s a great reminder that the words we say matter. I’m really looking forward to your new book. Not sure if you will be including this topic in your book but can you please address in a future blog post or video how you encourage wise spending/saving/giving? Do you give allowances? Are they tied to chores or behaviors? I know this can be a controversial subject with varying opinions but you’re a voice I trust and respect. Any thoughts would be so helpful. Thanks!!
Great post! My 18 year old started out at 2 with an old sock on her hand helping me clean my baseboards and window sills. They were never so clean as when I had toddlers. :) That's what started me on my natural cleaning products path as I didn't want harmful chemicals on her hands. That 18 year old is now in college. While she is not my neatest child and as a teen has been a bit messy, she tells me that she's much neater than other girls on her floor.:) I applaud you for incorporating housework into your children''s routines. So many don't.
Also, I loved how you pointed out that encouraging words need to be sincere and not just platitudes. As a Mom to 3 teenagers, they will call you out on those encouraging words if they don't think they're sincere. :) A great reminder as it's so easy to become negative!
I have two sons in their teens: grades 8 and 12. They are responsible for keeping their bedrooms, bathroom, utility room, family room and staircase clean. The rule of thumb is to clean with the eye of being an overnight guest. No one is feels welcome to play, snack or sleep amongst crumbs, dust and clutter. And the WC must be scent-free, fuzz-free and shiny. It must be a place that if the unfortunate should happen (i.e flu or the like), one would not have their senses further offended. And, lastly, I ask them to imagine themselves as having the ideal dorm mate or spouse. What practices would make for a happy, homey feeling where one could be productive, rest or entertain on the spot without embarrassment or stress? Besides Romans 12 stresses the need to practice hospitality.
I like this! Thankyou 😁
Thank you for your video, Jennifer. I needed to hear that today. Things did not go well with one of my three children this morning, and I think working on encouraging my children more will help. Parenting can be so challenging and godly parenting encouragement is valuable.
Encouraging children with praise is so important! We often refer to our family as a team and have team meetings weekly. One part of our meeting is a time to praise each other for specific ways we see our family members helping our "team".
A tip I once read was when you praise a child, to focus on how they are feeling about their achievement rather than always how the parent feels. Ex "You must be so proud of the way you helped your sister put on her shoes." This allows for a more intrinsic motivation to make themselves proud rather than just working to please others.
I was just talking to my sister today about how even when I know the right way to speak to my children and be encouraging, when I am tired or stressed, it can be hard to have the patience. Learning to take care of yourself and find margin and balance leads to more graceful parenting. Having grace for yourself when you mess up is so important too. Apologizing to your kids when you fall short in patience is an important example in humility, forgiveness and grace.
Teaching them that we all fall short, but are still so loved by God (more than parents ever can) is the most important lesson we can teach.
I agree and love everything you said Janessa. I was stressed and in a big hurry two days ago and yelled at my 7 year old daughter a couple times. Later at dinner that evening, I apologized to her and explained that I am working on not yelling when we are stressed and in a rush, but that it is my natural tendency. I also think it’s important that they see you mess up and give yourself grace while asking for forgiveness. Parenting is so challenging! I can’t wait for Jennifer’s new book to come out!
Hi ladies, I'm loving your comments. I'm noticing a theme too with the comments here and on YouTube and that is for the parent to acknowledge when we make a mistake. This is so important. Thank you for bringing that up! I definitely apologize to my children when I make mistakes (which is often :) ). I really love hearing your triumphs and struggles. It helps so much. Thank you for commenting.
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Jennifer
Hello Jennifer,
Great advice! I am finally getting around to watching and commenting on this since I've been out of town. I want to add my experience from the child's perspective and say that the parent-child relationship extends far longer than many people may realize. Even as an adult, when I was already a parent myself, I still enjoyed encouragement from my father. He would always tell me I was a good mother, that every little thing I did for my kids was meaningful, that I looked nice, that I smelled nice, that he felt I was good at organization and planning, etc. Now my father has passed away, and I still remember everything he said to me, and it still means so much to me. So, keep up the encouragement of your children even when they are adults!
Warm best,
Alexandra
Спасибо за советы,Дженнифер!(Thanks for the advice,Jennifer!)
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