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5 Ways to Take the High Road and Remain UNBOTHERED


In this modern media age, we have been exposed to all sorts of bad behavior: public altercations, online tantrums, Facebook fights, and in-person confrontations (just to name a few). It is a fact that we will at some point be triggered by someone in our life. How do we come out of this situation as better people? How can we grow from this? How can we take the high road and not stoop to their level? This is what classy and elegant people do. I hope you enjoy today's video.
To do so we must remain calm, classy, elegant, nonplussed

Calm- not showing or feeling nervousness, anger, or other strong emotions. Classy- stylish and sophisticated. Elegant- pleasingly graceful and stylish in appearance or manner. Nonplussed- unperturbed
Here are 5 ways to take the high road and remain unbothered.
1. Be too big to care. Be magnanimous. Magnanimous means to be "generous or forgiving, especially toward a rival or less powerful person". This is the essence of taking the high road. If you are dealing with someone who is using dirty tricks to try to upset you, you are dealing with a less powerful person because their consciousness is limited. Their maturity is lacking. Simply understand this and be magnanimous toward them.
2. Use this affirmation: None of these things move me. – Acts 20:24 I use this affirmation frequently throughout my day when things aren’t going how I want them to go. None of these things move me. I’ve even shared this with a good friend and she has found it very useful too. When you find yourself wrapped up in a situation that is producing anger for you, your vision is clouded and you feel like this experience is all there is. Get used to immediately saying “None of these things move me”. It’s the ultimate statement to remain UNBOTHERED.
3. Don’t magnify the problem with your attention. “My experience is what I agree to attend to.” – William James What do you want to attend to? Is someone trying to drag you down to their level? Are you going to give that attention? Or are you going to take the high road and remain up high, no matter what they do? You are in control of the experience you have.
4. Remember that when you retaliate in anger, you only hurt yourself. “Heat not a furnace for your foe so hot that it do singe yourself”. Henry Vlll Shakespeare Remain nonplussed. When you act out in anger, you come off as the bad one. It doesn’t look good. They never see your side. You are the one who looks unhinged. You “singe yourself” as Shakespeare said.
5. Your ships come in over a calm sea. -Florence Scoval Shinn Remember: when you remain calm, you come out on top. Things start working in your favor. If you are dealing with someone who has a history of trying to push your buttons and get under your skin, they will eventually become bored with you and move on to someone else. “Your ships” represent what you want. I’m guessing what you want is peace. Your peace will come in over a calm sea. Think about it: if the sea is rough and turbulent in a storm, the ship cannot come into the harbor. Think of your reaction the same way. Whatever you want out of this situation will only come about once you are calm. It may take years… but come about it will.
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1 comment:

Erica said...

Thank you for a great video. I feel like these are also great tips for dealing with your children when they are acting up.