Wine do's and don'ts: what are they? What are the basic rules we should remember when drinking wine. Whether you are an occasional wine drinker like I am, or you enjoy wine every day, these are wine rules to practice.

Do hold your glass by the stem or the base

Don’t hold it by the barrel or you will warm the wine

Do drink from the same spot on your glass

Don’t leave lipstick marks all over your glass

Do hold the bottle from the base when pouring

Don’t hold the bottle from the nozzle when pouring

Do fill your glass less than half-way up

Don’t fill your glass to the top

Do drink at a leisurely pace, matching that of your companions or less.

Don’t get drunk.

Do allow the waiter to refill your glass, if desired 

Don’t down your wine while the waiter approaches so you can get the most in your cup. (this is the funny blooper)

Do clink the bell of the glass

Don’t clink the tip

Do look your partner in the eyes when saying "cheers"

Don’t look at the wine when saying cheers

Do offer to fill other people’s glasses before you fill your own

Don’t refill your glass first

Do make sure you’re drinking from your glass

Don’t accidentally drink from someone else’s glass

Do use the correct wine glass to drink wine in

Don’t serve wine in an inappropriate glass

Do take food into consideration when deciding on a wine to serve.

Don’t serve a Rosé with a hearty Bolognese, for example

Do Serve wine at the correct temperature:

1. Red wine at room temperature- 65 to 72 degrees F

2. Dry white wine should be chilled and served at 45 degrees F

3. Rosé chilled and served at 45 degrees F

Don’t serve your wine at the incorrect temperature

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In continuation of my series on being elegant and polished, I am sharing ten more ways to be effortlessly polished. These tips focus more on being rather than "looking". I do hope you enjoy today's video. 

Carry yourself gracefully From your posture to the way you walk, carry yourself gracefully. Here’s a trick: set up a camera and film yourself doing an activity (like cleaning the living room). This will allow you to see yourself as others see you. You might notice you hunch your shoulders when you get stressed, or that you tend to stomp your feet instead of lightly walking gracefully. Aim to be intentional about how you carry yourself for a polished outcome. 

Eye contact Eye contact vs. shifty eyes… which ones seems more calming and grounded? We all know it’s eye contact. No matter who you are speaking to, give them your full attention with eye contact. Avoid looking over their shoulder or at other people, which gives the impression that you are not listening to them or interested in what they’re saying. 

A clean car I get an F- on this one… I do. But I will try to get better at it. If your self-presentation is neat and your home is neat, well… your car should be neat too. Avoid trash and excess bags and clothing and whatever else ends up cluttering up the car. Go for a tidy interior and exterior to extend elegance to the road. 

A clean handbag If we look polished, but our handbag doubles as a miniature trash bag, we are sending mixed messages. Elegance and poise should extend everywhere and our handbags are no exception. Regularly clean out your bag and discard of trash or reallocate important things that don’t belong there. 

Take Your Meals Sitting Down This one is big. It’s very hard to be elegant while walking and eating at the same time. After all, how can you focus on your food? There are a few exceptions, such as when you get an ice cream at the beach, for example, but in general, we should aim to sit down to a properly set table to enjoy our meals. Walking and eating at the same time is not chic. 

Taking your time (not rushing) There are times to rush and times to not rush. In general, we do not want to rush through our everyday life. Don’t allow others to rush you either. 

Having a calm demeanor is in stark contrast to a rushed/ harried demeanor and goes a long way toward projecting poise. Not overreacting When we get mad, whether in traffic, or in conversation with someone, the elegant thing to do is not overreact. Remain uber-calm. Put on your Mona Lisa smile, if you must. Watch your breathing, posture, and eye contact. Refrain from saying something you’ll likely regret later. Pause. Walk away. Do whatever you need to do and refrain from lowering your standards.  

Air of mystery How much do you share on social media? Is it too much? Do you share too much of your children? Of your problems? Of your triumphs? Do you overshare what happens to you throughout your day? Assess this because poised and elegant people are also mysterious, in a good way. Check out Lessons from Madame Chic for more on this topic. 

What experience do you give from start to finish? It’s true we are not responsible for making other people feel things, but we should be interested in what experience we give people from start to finish. Before we meet in person, we might communicate by email, for example. Are your emails appropriate and professional? When we meet them, we give a first impression. Are you dressed appropriately? When we close our conversation we leave them with a feeling of how it went. Did they feel that they were heard? Being conscious of what experience we give people from start to finish is key to garnering poise. 

Be well-spoken Elegant people avoid base swear words. They also avoid excessive filler words (like, um, you know). They also phrase their sentences beautifully: “I would like vs. I want”. I will be doing a follow-up video on this subject so make sure you’re subscribed to my YouTube channel and turn on notifications so you don’t miss it.

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