In part 3 of my stress series, I invite Ben on the channel to cap off our conversation about stress. We discuss stress from both a man and a woman's perspective. Ben, as usual, has some very insightful ideas to share and I hope you enjoy listening to him in today's video.
The statistics discussed in the video were taken from this Gallup poll.
The article lists the top two things to cause stress in one's life as children and work. Would you agree with that?
Would you say that stress for men and women is caused by different things? Is your significant other stressed out by the same things you are?
These are all interesting insights into the world of stress and we would love to hear from you in the comment section.
To see my previous videos on stress click here and here.
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6 comments:
Hello Jennifer. I really enjoyed the discussion between you and Ben this morning and appreciate the reminders/insights into stress relief. Prayer and Bible reading are my go-to's when stress spikes. Long walks are a perfect time to talk with Jesus - getting the tension out of my body and soul. I don't believe in Fate. I am convinced that my Creator and Savior knows exactly what's going on in my life and stands ready to comfort, strengthen and cheer me on with His perfect love. The problems/challenges may not go away, but the hope and peace of Christ's reality and presence sure help keep things in perspective.
This talk reminds me of one of my favorite quotes. “The root of joy is gratefulness...It is not joy that makes us grateful; it is gratitude that makes us joyful.” ― Brother David Steindl-Rast
So much of our stress is needless. When we focus on what we truly need and what really brings us joy, we find we usually have more than enough. When we can tune out all the noise of what the world promises will make us happy (money, career, prestige, things, etc.), we can actually find that peace and joy more easily. Intentionally simplifying our needs, possessions, and responsibilities dramatically reduce stress and increase gratitude and mindfulness. This is why something as simple as a capsule wardrobe can be so life-changing. This one small area of intentionality can have a domino effect on your habits and mindset.
Love these talks and Ben's input! Thanks for shining your light!
Hello Jennifer! Thank you for sharing this discussion between you and Ben this morning. I just have a thought on the stress associated with child-rearing. I agree that parenting is stressful and especially so during the younger years. I think what makes this difficult is not our children but the world we live in today. Like Ben said, "slow down". We live in a fast-paced everything now world that is not friendly to families with multiple children and certainly harder on one-income families. We used to be a family-centered culture that lived in small communities and sought face-to-face interaction as opposed to a screen. That culture provided a much needed break when families came together more often for dinners and more women were home with their children and could get together for the children to play and for us moms to vent and laugh. I think keeping extracurricular activities to a minimum is good for families as well. Love your talks. Thank you!!!
Hi Jennifer and Ben,
Thank you again, for a nice video! Ben is such a gentleman, how sweet is that, especially in this day and age! I loved all the comments above, too!
For me, and perhaps much of my (middle-age) generation, stress also comes from:
1. Pressure to lose weight, be someone I'm not, social obligations I'm not comfortable with, etc. Often it's internal emotional stress.
2. Loneliness. But, like Ben said, it's very helpful to reach out and do something for someone else. But it needs to be a "choice" of mine, like a previous comment said.
3. The adult "kids" and their young children are often in "trouble" one way or another. People our age are often stepping in and picking up the pieces. (I am good at saying "no", even though we have gone to heroic measures a time or two. But the stress was unbearable.)
4. Health issues are often a stress for we older people, although God has blessed my husband and I with health and healing many times. But getting old is part of life.
5. Caring for aging parents can be stress for we middle-aged people as well.
I think perhaps so many retired people have so little stress is because they are either past a lot of these issues, AND/OR they have learned to "live in the moment", and "want less", as Ben suggested, and have learned to "let go of the small stuff" as you both talked about. Also, I know I have learned how much easier it is to let the Lord carry my stressful burdens, of every kind. Wisdom does come from experience. You two are showing a lot of wisdom beyond your years.
Keep up the good work and the good examples!
Re: the banal "How are you?" question - When people ask me that now, I say "Ask me something fun". So it might be "Did you read a book last night?" or "What are you making for dinner?". I've been stressed a lot lately, but these are not the appropriate conversations to burden the person with what's on my mind. Having them ask a "fun" question gets my brain thinking about something positive, and feel connected to the other person for a few minutes
Hi Jennifer! I am catching up on your blog and really enjoyed this video. It was interesting to get Ben's perspective. I think you are right that men and women handle stress differently, and also the cause of the stress is different. I'm a stay at home mom and homemaker, so many of my responsibilities require forward thinking, such as making doctors appointments, planning dinners, etc. So sometimes it's hard to stay present and I get stressed worrying about everything that needs to get done, and making sure I remember it all. My husband is much more able to stay present and enjoy life as it comes, and this keeps him less stressed. I do think the older I get the more I am able to let things go and not "cry over spilled milk". I also want to be a positive role model for my daughter and not be so stressed and worried all the time. Thanks for the tips.
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